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<H1>[Mageia-discuss] Cultural difference: "Let your yes be yes" <---> "It is rude to say no"</H1>
<B>Marja van Waes</B>
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<I>Fri Jul 13 08:52:24 CEST 2012</I>
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<PRE>On 13/07/2012 00:01, Johnny A. Solbu wrote:
><i> On Thursday 12 July 2012 22:28, Marja van Waes wrote:
</I>>>><i> The Right thing to do is to always mean what you're saying. If
</I>>>><i> you don't, you're a lier and can't be trusted.
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</I>><i> I sometimes have a friend over (let's call him Y) that sometimes
</I>><i> doesn't want to talk to X. Sometimes I used to get a phone from X
</I>><i> ansking if I kow where Y is. If Y didn't want to talk to X (which
</I>><i> he'd declare before I answered the phone), I'd often close my eyes or
</I>><i> turn my back to Y and say to X on the phone that I don't see him, or
</I>><i> that I hadn't seen him in a while. Sometimes I could say that I
</I>><i> hadn't seen him since the last time I saw him.
</I>><i>
</I>><i> Both statements are true. With my back to him, I can't see him, hence
</I>><i> I didn't see him. And I didn't see him in a while, al thou a very
</I>><i> /short/ while. A few seconds is still a while. I mean, how long is a
</I>><i> piece of string? :-)=
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</I>><i> The trick is often to answer their exact question, and not what they
</I>><i> want to know. I learned this from a couple who are friends of the
</I>><i> family, and which does quite a bit of counceling.
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I know this trick, I use it at times.
Thanks a lot for mentioning it, because now is the first time I really
think about it.
I'd feel betrayed if I were Y and found out X was with you.
The sooner I stop using this trick, the better.
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